Social media has become the norm. It's ingrained itself in our daily lives, most of us spend time on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr etc every single day, I know I certainly do it more often than I should.
As with any public forum, there are always people who misbehave, use it irresponsibly and just shouldn't be allowed to post. There are the obvious cases of the morons who use it for cyber bullying- those people should be hung with their ethernet cables. There do exist other, less serious offences that people commit on a regular basis that are not nearly as bad but yet, are extremely annoying- they aren't Facebook felonies...more like misdemeanors. If you're guilty of any of them, stop it and punch yourself in the face. Here, my friends, are some of the different types:
Posting inspirational quotes and photos. Seriously, all you're inspiring people to do is to unfollow you It's lame, you're clogging up my timeline and I'd rather be jabbing myself in the eye. I get it , you're trying to be positive in a negative world...well I positively can't stand those 'be true to yourself' BS type posts- if I wanted to feel better about myself via Facebook, I'd look at how fat the people I went to high school got. It's preachy and you look desperate to cover up how sad you are inwardly...stop it.
The constant updater. I don't care that you just woke up. I don't care that you just had an awesome sandwich. I don't care that you're watching the game but might go out later. This is not twitter, it's not meant for instant updates, play-by-plays of the game you're watching or to share that you ate food.
The gamer. Facebook games are fun, addictive and enjoyable...and shared too easily. If your game doesn't show you that I also play it, do not send me an invite to play it. I will find you and I will end you. Stop it.
"Share if you love your daughter/son/mom/grandchild" etc. WTF are you proving by sharing that? Obviously you love your family member unless you're a Kardashian. What did you prove...that you love your family more than others love theirs? Or will your family member see that and think "oh well I wasn't sure if mom loved me, but she said so on Facebook so it must be true!" You want to tell someone you love them, how about calling them instead of trying to virtually show off how much you love someone.
The person who re-posts your photo or joke without giving you credit for it. You are the Dane Cook of Facebook, stop stealing other people's stuff to make yourself look funny. Feel free to Share posts, photos, vids etc but give the originator the credit at least.
Couples who only have one shared Facebook. You make me sick. You're two human beings, act like it. If you don't trust the other person enough to have their own Facebook, then you shouldn't have married them.
Parents who only post about parent stuff. You're a parent, congratulations. It's time consuming, life stealing and is a 24-7 job, but if that is all you are anymore, then maybe you should seek some help. Just a tip- those of your friends who don't have kids, are so tired of reading your posts about bottles vs. breasts feeding and cute designs for how to store baby's first god-knows-what.
People who post spoilers. Seriously, what's wrong with you? You cannot post all about the big TV event the day after in detail, that's just common sense! Not everyone has HBO, AMC etc and/or were out and are going to watch it later in the week. In a world where live tv is mostly dead and people can watch anything at any time- you have to allow for delayed watching. If you absolutely have to post your feelings, you must clearly indicate a spoiler alert well in advance.
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Tuesday, 4 February 2014
Online Dating- Why you should get online.
As humans have evolved, so have our means of meeting our mates and life partners; from clubbing a potential mate over the head and dragging her to your cave, to having your father choose his best business partner and from box socials to seedy bar scenes, it has never been easy to meet that special someone.
These days, there is a method of meeting the opposite sex which is still relatively new and very unique- online dating.
The fact is that, if you're looking to meet someone, online dating is where the single people are these days, so those of you who look down your nose at it are encouraged to get off of your lonely high horses and get with the times. According to a well-known 2013 study, roughly a third of marriages in the US stemmed from people meeting through online dating. Yes, this study was funded by eHarmony but just by talking to various couples that you know, the 30% range certainly doesn't seem outlandish.
The stigma of online dating seems to finally be dying out as more and more people who first turned their noses up at it are realizing its benefits, especially when compared to the hassles presented by the other, more 'traditional' methods of meeting members of the opposite sex. The bar and club scenes are like trying to find a diamond in an black cave- it's dark, there's a lot of groping around, you feel unsafe, and generally, whatever you end up taking out of it turns out to be a lump of coal. Trying to meet someone through friends is a disaster waiting to happen, because you are not only risking making an awkward situation for your friend but you're risking your friendship from day one. Also, if your friends are like mine, I wouldn't trust them to pick my date...I pulled too many horrible pranks on them in the past to trust that they won't use this as revenge. As for my parents choosing my partner...I wouldn't trust them to pick out a place for lunch.
Like anything in life, there are pros and cons to online dating versus meeting in person, some examples are:
Pro: You know something about the person before wasting time chatting up someone you realize you have nothing in common with.
Con: Those pictures are often quite misleading.
Pro: You can narrow down your search frames to fit your type
Con: There are some real creeps...and because it's not in person, they feel there are no rules for conduct.
Pro: As long as you aren't silly and give out too much information, your safety is in your control.
Con: Seeing an ex on the same site as you.....awkward!
I could go on and on as everything has many pros and cons, however, being a veteran of the online dating sites, I truly believe that the pros outweigh the cons. Online dating is really just playing the odds in the dating game. By using a dating site, you can assume with reasonable confidence, that the people you are meeting are also single. There is nothing worse than meeting a great guy/girl at the bar and feeling that connection just in time for their wife/husband to walk over. You can also tell if this person is from the area or not (because we've all met the guy who is 'just here for the weekend'). Even if their written profile is not exactly 'stellar', it's not that hard to get a sense of a person from what they write, i.e. sarcastic, mushy, aggressive, not enough info, arrogant etc. As for the dreaded profile picture, this is a gamble with online dating. There are ways to try to discern if the photo is genuine or not such as asking for more photos, chatting through live-video (such as Skype) before meeting in person, or old fashioned online stalking etc, but this is probably the biggest risk you'll be taking.
The other argument I do hear (mostly from women) is that it isn't 'safe' to meet a stranger from the internet. Well, this is true for 14 year old girls and children...but you're an adult and as long as you have a basic understanding of how not to put yourself at obvious risk, you're safer than you would be in a dark club surrounded by drunk men slithering all over you and trying to lure you to their cars. Meet somewhere public, let at least one person know where you're going, don't give out all of your info up front etc.
I have met some very nice, fun, wonderful men online, some of whom I am lucky enough to still be friends with, one of whom I'm lucky enough to still be happily dating years after our first online message. I have also met some real assholes...liars, freaks, jerks etc. In fact, some of my online dating stories are so incredibly bad that my friends love to have me tell them at parties for a good laugh. However, I find this no different than the men I met prior to my foray into the online dating realm. The fact is that dating isn't easy, no matter how you meet the person and each method will present its own perks and challenges, but just like with everything, if you stick with it, you will learn and your chances will improve.
So, my advice is simple...try it. There are a ton of different sites available to suit your needs, be it a free casual dating site, a site more geared towards older adults, ones for people of specific ethnic or religious backgrounds and ones meant just for casual sex. Yes, it takes time and yes, it takes effort, but that's just the nature of the dating game, and if you don't play, you've already lost.
These days, there is a method of meeting the opposite sex which is still relatively new and very unique- online dating.
The fact is that, if you're looking to meet someone, online dating is where the single people are these days, so those of you who look down your nose at it are encouraged to get off of your lonely high horses and get with the times. According to a well-known 2013 study, roughly a third of marriages in the US stemmed from people meeting through online dating. Yes, this study was funded by eHarmony but just by talking to various couples that you know, the 30% range certainly doesn't seem outlandish.
The stigma of online dating seems to finally be dying out as more and more people who first turned their noses up at it are realizing its benefits, especially when compared to the hassles presented by the other, more 'traditional' methods of meeting members of the opposite sex. The bar and club scenes are like trying to find a diamond in an black cave- it's dark, there's a lot of groping around, you feel unsafe, and generally, whatever you end up taking out of it turns out to be a lump of coal. Trying to meet someone through friends is a disaster waiting to happen, because you are not only risking making an awkward situation for your friend but you're risking your friendship from day one. Also, if your friends are like mine, I wouldn't trust them to pick my date...I pulled too many horrible pranks on them in the past to trust that they won't use this as revenge. As for my parents choosing my partner...I wouldn't trust them to pick out a place for lunch.
Like anything in life, there are pros and cons to online dating versus meeting in person, some examples are:
Pro: You know something about the person before wasting time chatting up someone you realize you have nothing in common with.
Con: Those pictures are often quite misleading.
Pro: You can narrow down your search frames to fit your type
Con: There are some real creeps...and because it's not in person, they feel there are no rules for conduct.
Pro: As long as you aren't silly and give out too much information, your safety is in your control.
Con: Seeing an ex on the same site as you.....awkward!
I could go on and on as everything has many pros and cons, however, being a veteran of the online dating sites, I truly believe that the pros outweigh the cons. Online dating is really just playing the odds in the dating game. By using a dating site, you can assume with reasonable confidence, that the people you are meeting are also single. There is nothing worse than meeting a great guy/girl at the bar and feeling that connection just in time for their wife/husband to walk over. You can also tell if this person is from the area or not (because we've all met the guy who is 'just here for the weekend'). Even if their written profile is not exactly 'stellar', it's not that hard to get a sense of a person from what they write, i.e. sarcastic, mushy, aggressive, not enough info, arrogant etc. As for the dreaded profile picture, this is a gamble with online dating. There are ways to try to discern if the photo is genuine or not such as asking for more photos, chatting through live-video (such as Skype) before meeting in person, or old fashioned online stalking etc, but this is probably the biggest risk you'll be taking.
The other argument I do hear (mostly from women) is that it isn't 'safe' to meet a stranger from the internet. Well, this is true for 14 year old girls and children...but you're an adult and as long as you have a basic understanding of how not to put yourself at obvious risk, you're safer than you would be in a dark club surrounded by drunk men slithering all over you and trying to lure you to their cars. Meet somewhere public, let at least one person know where you're going, don't give out all of your info up front etc.
I have met some very nice, fun, wonderful men online, some of whom I am lucky enough to still be friends with, one of whom I'm lucky enough to still be happily dating years after our first online message. I have also met some real assholes...liars, freaks, jerks etc. In fact, some of my online dating stories are so incredibly bad that my friends love to have me tell them at parties for a good laugh. However, I find this no different than the men I met prior to my foray into the online dating realm. The fact is that dating isn't easy, no matter how you meet the person and each method will present its own perks and challenges, but just like with everything, if you stick with it, you will learn and your chances will improve.
So, my advice is simple...try it. There are a ton of different sites available to suit your needs, be it a free casual dating site, a site more geared towards older adults, ones for people of specific ethnic or religious backgrounds and ones meant just for casual sex. Yes, it takes time and yes, it takes effort, but that's just the nature of the dating game, and if you don't play, you've already lost.
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